There
are so many myths about how to meditate, what a daily meditation practice
means, and what the overall experience of meditation should be. Here's the
thing, Meditation is for everyone, and it's different for everyone. There is no
right or wrong way of doing it, and meditation can help you increase your
focus, reduce stress, and prevent common health ailments. Here are the 20 basic
tips to get your practice to the next level:
1)Make it a formal practice. You will only
get to the next level in meditation by setting aside specific time (preferably
two times a day) to be still.
2)Start with the breath. Breathing deep
slows the heart rate, relaxes the muscles, focuses the mind and is an ideal way
to begin practice.
3)Stretch first. Stretching loosens the muscles
and tendons allowing you to sit (or lie) more comfortably. Additionally,
stretching starts the process of “going inward” and brings added attention to
the body.
4)Meditate with Purpose. Beginners must
understand that meditation is an ACTIVE process. The art of focusing your
attention to a single point is hard work, and you have to be purposefully
engaged!
5)Notice frustration creep up on you.
This is very common for beginners as we think “hey, what am I doing here” or
“why can’t I just quiet my damn mind already”. When this happens, really focus
in on your breath and let the frustrated feelings go.
6)Experiment. Although many of us think of
effective meditation as a Yogi sitting cross-legged beneath a Bonzi tree,
beginners should be more experimental and try different types of meditation.
Try sitting, lying, eyes open, eyes closed, etc.
7)Feel your body parts. A great practice for beginning
meditators is to take notice of the body when a meditative state starts to take
hold. Once the mind quiets, put all your attention to the feet and then slowly
move your way up the body (include your internal organs). This is very healthy
and an indicator that you are on the right path.
8)Pick a specific room in your home to meditate.
Make sure it is not the same room where you do work, exercise, or sleep. Place
candles and other spiritual paraphernalia in the room to help you feel at ease.
9)Read a book (or two) on meditation.
Preferably an instructional guide AND one that describes the benefits of deep
meditative states. This will get you motivated. John Kabat-Zinn’s Wherever You Go,
There You Are
is terrific for beginners.
10)Commit for the long haul. Meditation is
a life-long practice, and you will benefit most by NOT examining the results of
your daily practice. Just do the best you can every day, and then let it go!
11)Generate moments of awareness during the day.
Finding your breath and “being present” while not in formal practice is a
wonderful way to evolve your meditation habits.
12)Make sure you will not be disturbed.
One of the biggest mistakes beginners make is not insuring peaceful practice
conditions. If you have it in the back of your mind that the phone might ring,
your kids might wake, or your coffee pot might whistle than you will not be
able to attain a state of deep relaxation.
13)Notice small adjustments. For beginning
meditators, the slightest physical movements can transform a meditative
practice from one of frustration to one of renewal. These adjustments may be
barely noticeable to an observer, but they can mean everything for your
practice.
14)Use a candle. Meditating with eyes closed can
be challenging for a beginner. Lighting a candle and using it as your point of
focus allows you to strengthen your attention with a visual cue. This can be
very powerful.
15)Do NOT Stress. This may be the most important
tip for beginners, and the hardest to implement. No matter what happens during
your meditation practice, do not stress about it. This includes being nervous
before meditating and angry afterwards. Meditation is what it is, and just do
the best you can at the time.
16)Do it together. Meditating with a partner or
loved one can have many wonderful benefits, and can improve your practice.
However, it is necessary to make sure that you set agreed-upon ground rules
before you begin!
17)Meditate early in the morning.
Without a doubt, early morning is an ideal
time to practice: it is quieter,
your mind is not filled with the usual clutter, and there is less chance you
will be disturbed. Make it a habit to get up half an hour earlier to meditate.
18)Be Grateful at the end. Once your
practice is through, spend 2-3 minutes feeling appreciative of the opportunity
to practice and your mind’s ability to focus.
21)Notice when your interest in meditation begins to wane.
Meditation is
hard work, and you will inevitably come to a point where it
seemingly does not fit into the picture anymore. Chances are that losing the
ability to focus on meditation is parallel with your inability to focus in
other areas of your life!